By: Mo Iluebbey
Pain has many faces.
Sometimes it’s loud and obvious — like the loss of a loved one. But other times, it’s quiet, hidden behind routines and forced smiles. Pain can come from a job you lost, a relationship that ended, a delayed answer to prayer, or a future that’s taking too long to arrive.
The truth is: we’re all carrying something. And no matter how put-together someone looks, we all experience grief in ways that don’t always make it to the surface.
Grief Isn’t Just About Death
Let’s be honest — grief isn’t limited to funerals. It’s also the unspoken ache that comes when life doesn’t go as planned.
- The loss of your sense of direction
- A dream that didn’t work out
- A closed door you didn’t expect
- A version of yourself you had to let go of
You may be grieving a season that felt wasted, or a path you had to abandon. And that grief is valid.
Your Pain Deserves a Voice
So many of us have been taught to “stay strong” and “keep going,” but here’s the thing: pain that’s buried doesn’t disappear — it multiplies.
“The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” – Psalm 34:18
You don’t have to pretend. You don’t have to numb yourself with busyness, entertainment, or silence. You are allowed to feel. You’re allowed to be honest with God. You’re allowed to say, “Lord, I don’t understand, but I’m still here.”
That’s not weakness. That’s courage.
Healing Is Messy — and That’s Okay
Healing is not linear. Some days you’ll feel like you’re making progress. Other days, it might feel like you’re starting all over again.
But every step — even the shaky ones—counts.
“His mercies are new every morning.” – Lamentations 3:23
You don’t have to rush through your pain to prove your faith. You can be both grieving and growing, broken yet still beloved.
Simple Things That Help
When you’re hurting, here are a few ways to make space for healing:
- Pray honestly. Even if it’s “God, I need You.”
- Write it down. Journaling helps release what your mouth can’t say.
- Talk to someone. Healing often happens in a safe, trusted community.
- Seek support. Therapy is not a lack of faith — it’s wisdom.
- Be creative. Sing, paint, walk, dance — let your soul breathe.
God Doesn’t Waste Pain
The pain you’re feeling may not make sense right now, but it’s not the end of your story.
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him…” – Romans 8:28
What you thought would break you might birth something in you. Some of the most powerful stories come from people who’ve walked through fire — and found purpose on the other side.
You Are Not Alone
So, if you’re in a hard season, here’s what I want you to know:
- You’re not alone.
- God is still present.
- You’re allowed to take your time.
- You don’t have to pretend to be okay.
Let’s stop hiding behind “I’m fine” and start healing together.
You’re not too broken. You’re not too far gone. You’re just human, and God is still writing your story.
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